MODERN IFIGENIA

Have you been asked this questions a lot? Well, maybe you haven't been asked the question this way, but I often find men attributing negativity to the women I am most impressed by and deem the most positive. I decided to write about this because the long-established inverse relationship between competence and likeability for women that Sheryl Sandberg has discussed rather frequently, seems to play out in the dating world as well. I am not going to talk too much about my life's accomplishments, but I am in mostly male dominated fields and I am a high performer. When I started dating, I found myself in situations where men would make statements like: "I am so proud of you and of knowing you" or "I can't believe I was lucky to meet someone like you" or "do you know who you are?" These questions would be followed by the explanation as to why we could not continue dating. I chucked it all to chemistry or lack thereof. There wasn't animo...

Woman 1: I need a husband Woman 2: You don't NEED a husband, you're doing great on your own. Woman 1: No, I need someone legally obligated to call 911 if I am having a heart attack.

A few weeks ago I started to have doubts as to whether I should continue to live in the home I own. I have lived in it for over seven years and have never faltered in my love for this place; It has original stained glass, hardwood floors, all the transoms work, panoramic windows-but it is huge, and made of BRICK . Brick is my favorite exterior across the board, but I am now learning that it costs a lot to repair. As I began to share my homeowner woes with one of my friends, he started to ask a lot of questions that slowly made me wonder if I was actually married to my house. Here is the conversation with literary liberties: Friend: So how come you didn't notice the damage? Me: I have just been so busy for so long that what was a small leak went unnoticed until the wall started to really fall apart. Friend: So what are you going to do? Me: I am thinking of selling it after the repairs, I really can't afford to keep making such expensive repairs, but I love it so much. Fr...

Guy: I think dating you will be good for my health Gal: Really, I'm flattered, but I am not really healthy Guy: Yeah, being around you will help me ward off Alzheimer's Gal: How so? Guy: Well, you say these things that have a logic to them, but are totally nonsense. So it takes my brain quite a bit of work just to understand the things you say. So it's like learning a new language which they say helps fight off Alzheimer's. Gal: What the hell is that supposed to mean? Guy: It means you are the best thing to happen to me.

"Whatever your destiny has in store, it is always love that finds you and not the other way around. That is why we must learn to listen."                              ---Roger Housden

I find the notion of love to have very different meanings based on your age; what it is and what it looks like and what to expect. I often hear different definitions for love from adults that are sometimes very amusing, but very true. I will  post these as I hear them. Today you will enjoy one of my friends' definition of true love: "True love is having someone who is madly in love with you, but who  is sane in all other regards"